the continuing saga....
Aug. 20th, 2001 02:18 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
raybearProps to Jessie for helping me brainstorm this.
Hi El____,
I can't remember if I told you where I was going on vacation -- we're delivering a friend's car out to California, and then spending a few days out there between the bay area and santa barbara before flying back.
Thanks for the offer to help move, but I'm pretty much down to the grimy stuff that I like to hide from other human beings. So it's probably much better for me to finish up on my own.
I should also just be really honest and say that yes, I am indeed really busy this week (it wasn't some 'line'), but also I'm really needing and wanting to focus on my relationship with my primary partner, so I wouldn't really feel comfortable hanging out with you again. I'm not trying to assume to know what your intentions or interests are, but I just wanted to eliminate any guessing on your part and let you know what was going on at my end. I'm sorry I didn't say this in my last e-mail, but I wasn't totally sure if you wanted to hang out with me and in what capacity, and I didn't want to bring something up if it wasn't going to be an issue (i.e. I'm really busy and you didn't want to see me anyway). And I guess I'm always striving to be a "good guy", so I'm always trying to find the optimal blend of high honesty and low weird-ness or hurt feelings.
I hope this makes sense. Thanks for being understanding.
Ray
Hi El____,
I can't remember if I told you where I was going on vacation -- we're delivering a friend's car out to California, and then spending a few days out there between the bay area and santa barbara before flying back.
Thanks for the offer to help move, but I'm pretty much down to the grimy stuff that I like to hide from other human beings. So it's probably much better for me to finish up on my own.
I should also just be really honest and say that yes, I am indeed really busy this week (it wasn't some 'line'), but also I'm really needing and wanting to focus on my relationship with my primary partner, so I wouldn't really feel comfortable hanging out with you again. I'm not trying to assume to know what your intentions or interests are, but I just wanted to eliminate any guessing on your part and let you know what was going on at my end. I'm sorry I didn't say this in my last e-mail, but I wasn't totally sure if you wanted to hang out with me and in what capacity, and I didn't want to bring something up if it wasn't going to be an issue (i.e. I'm really busy and you didn't want to see me anyway). And I guess I'm always striving to be a "good guy", so I'm always trying to find the optimal blend of high honesty and low weird-ness or hurt feelings.
I hope this makes sense. Thanks for being understanding.
Ray
