"Maybe you drove them away from Christ"
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raybearHere's the quick play-by-play of the weekend:
Yesterday I went to a discussion/performance on "Language of Hip Hop" as part of the Humanities Festival around town. This local group, All Natural performed, and now I'm getting into their music. I hung out with Damon some in the afternoon, bought more records, of course, and just walked around the neighborhood an enjoyed the weather. After he left, I watched some TV, went for a long walk where I also chatted with![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
geekgrrl47, then watched the end of O Brother.
Today I slept in, went to get bagels with MelRo, and we walked around (again enjoying the unseasonably warm weather), and talked and planned a lot about upcoming holiday ventures.
So I called my parents this morning and hung up on them. Oh, stalker? Well, today is my dad's bday, and I assumed they would be at church this morning, so I called specifically so I could just leave a message on the machine wishing him (and belatedly my mom, though I did e-mail her) a happy birthday. But he answered. So I hung up. I just couldn't deal with it right now.
Which brings me to the next topic. Holidays. This is the very tentative plan for now:
1. Thanksgiving in Philly with M. Rowen and the Family (trademark Bad Boy for Life)
2. Xmas in Chicago
3. New Year's elsewhere with MelRo, possibly San Fran.
Now. I'm looking forward to Thanksgiving and think that will be lots of fun. Xmas is problematic because of the whole parental unit thing. I do NOT want to go to a city and deal with all the stress. Plus, this year is way different than last year regarding my physical appearance. LAst year, I passed most of the time to strangers, but I still looked pretty similar to my former dyke incarnation. This year, my parents will probably have a hard time seeing me. And I don't want my xmas ruined, to be perfectly honest. I like xmas. It's not terribly politically correct, and I hate how oppressive it can be. I feel apologetic for that. But I love every non-religious aspect -- Frank-Capra-winter-wonderland-eggnog-turkey-tree with ornaments-lights-rudolph and frosty-bing crosby-etc. etc. etc. Hell, I even like a couple of the xmas carols, despite not being in touch with the whole nativity thing. So a lot of these things I associate with Atlanta and home. But I don't want another half-and-half xmas -- as in half happy about the xmas activities, half miserable because I'm not able to be myself. So this is what I came up with today (with the help of MelRo). I'm hosting xmas in Chicago. And going all out. Here's the plan.
Right afterlimenal finishes her exams on Dec. 7th, we're having an Xmas Cocktail Party on Dec. 8th. I'm going to buy a tree, and have people help decorate it that night. We're going to serve red and green cocktails (Cosmopolitans and Midori Sours). And possibly eggnog. I'm going to make fudge and martha washington balls. And sugar cookies. And pumpkin pie. And I"m going to play xmas songs all night, possibly lounge versions. And there will be a viewing of Santa Claus is Coming To Town. And the entire evening will be irony-free. I bought invitations this afternoon (along with my guilt-ridden belated bday cards to my parents). In each invitation, I will included an additional slip of paper, announcing that I will be hosting festivities on xmas day as well. I will make a large turkey. And dressing. And more pie. I will rent the Grinch and "Home for the Holidays" and "Its a Wonderful Life" and "Scrooged" and "A Christmas Carol" with George C. Scott. OH! And the Charlie Brown Christmas special. And maybe in the evening go see some cheesy big blockbuster movie at the theater.
And to top it all off, maybe I'll invite my parents to Chicago for Xmas, and that way they'll be turning my offer down, rather than the other way around. And I will have the best xmas ever.
(Of course, any and all LJers are invited.)
I feel really good and excited by my plans.
Which is good since I'm feeling nervous about sending pictures to my parents from my
California trip. I feel like they'll get angry/upset by seeing them because of my physical changes. But as Melanie so astutely pointed out, they'll have to deal with it eventually, and sooner is probably better than later.
Alright, I'm going to go do some house chores, like taking out the garbage, vacuuming, and maybe even laundry. I wish there were more Sundays in a week.
Yesterday I went to a discussion/performance on "Language of Hip Hop" as part of the Humanities Festival around town. This local group, All Natural performed, and now I'm getting into their music. I hung out with Damon some in the afternoon, bought more records, of course, and just walked around the neighborhood an enjoyed the weather. After he left, I watched some TV, went for a long walk where I also chatted with
geekgrrl47, then watched the end of O Brother.Today I slept in, went to get bagels with MelRo, and we walked around (again enjoying the unseasonably warm weather), and talked and planned a lot about upcoming holiday ventures.
So I called my parents this morning and hung up on them. Oh, stalker? Well, today is my dad's bday, and I assumed they would be at church this morning, so I called specifically so I could just leave a message on the machine wishing him (and belatedly my mom, though I did e-mail her) a happy birthday. But he answered. So I hung up. I just couldn't deal with it right now.
Which brings me to the next topic. Holidays. This is the very tentative plan for now:
1. Thanksgiving in Philly with M. Rowen and the Family (trademark Bad Boy for Life)
2. Xmas in Chicago
3. New Year's elsewhere with MelRo, possibly San Fran.
Now. I'm looking forward to Thanksgiving and think that will be lots of fun. Xmas is problematic because of the whole parental unit thing. I do NOT want to go to a city and deal with all the stress. Plus, this year is way different than last year regarding my physical appearance. LAst year, I passed most of the time to strangers, but I still looked pretty similar to my former dyke incarnation. This year, my parents will probably have a hard time seeing me. And I don't want my xmas ruined, to be perfectly honest. I like xmas. It's not terribly politically correct, and I hate how oppressive it can be. I feel apologetic for that. But I love every non-religious aspect -- Frank-Capra-winter-wonderland-eggnog-turkey-tree with ornaments-lights-rudolph and frosty-bing crosby-etc. etc. etc. Hell, I even like a couple of the xmas carols, despite not being in touch with the whole nativity thing. So a lot of these things I associate with Atlanta and home. But I don't want another half-and-half xmas -- as in half happy about the xmas activities, half miserable because I'm not able to be myself. So this is what I came up with today (with the help of MelRo). I'm hosting xmas in Chicago. And going all out. Here's the plan.
Right after
limenal finishes her exams on Dec. 7th, we're having an Xmas Cocktail Party on Dec. 8th. I'm going to buy a tree, and have people help decorate it that night. We're going to serve red and green cocktails (Cosmopolitans and Midori Sours). And possibly eggnog. I'm going to make fudge and martha washington balls. And sugar cookies. And pumpkin pie. And I"m going to play xmas songs all night, possibly lounge versions. And there will be a viewing of Santa Claus is Coming To Town. And the entire evening will be irony-free. I bought invitations this afternoon (along with my guilt-ridden belated bday cards to my parents). In each invitation, I will included an additional slip of paper, announcing that I will be hosting festivities on xmas day as well. I will make a large turkey. And dressing. And more pie. I will rent the Grinch and "Home for the Holidays" and "Its a Wonderful Life" and "Scrooged" and "A Christmas Carol" with George C. Scott. OH! And the Charlie Brown Christmas special. And maybe in the evening go see some cheesy big blockbuster movie at the theater. And to top it all off, maybe I'll invite my parents to Chicago for Xmas, and that way they'll be turning my offer down, rather than the other way around. And I will have the best xmas ever.
(Of course, any and all LJers are invited.)
I feel really good and excited by my plans.
Which is good since I'm feeling nervous about sending pictures to my parents from my
California trip. I feel like they'll get angry/upset by seeing them because of my physical changes. But as Melanie so astutely pointed out, they'll have to deal with it eventually, and sooner is probably better than later.
Alright, I'm going to go do some house chores, like taking out the garbage, vacuuming, and maybe even laundry. I wish there were more Sundays in a week.
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Date: 2001-11-04 12:30 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2001-11-04 01:29 pm (UTC)p.s. i have something for you. it will make you laugh.
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Date: 2001-11-04 01:36 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2001-11-04 03:36 pm (UTC)and i'd love to hang out next weekend. saturday is MAd TV and sunday is the Simpsons season premiere! we can plan our social gatherings around TV, like all brilliant intellectuals.
oh, and my address is raymondboywonder@yahoo.com!
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Date: 2001-11-04 03:41 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2001-11-04 03:49 pm (UTC)i wasn't sure, actually. so i erred on the side of e-mail address. how bout you e-mail me and i'll e-mail you my address?
OR, you can just bring it next weekend. :)
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Date: 2001-11-04 03:57 pm (UTC)and here i am, probably hyping it way up. i hope you're not disappointed. i just saw it and thought of you and i think you'll find it most likely only mildly amusing. oh well, it makes me giggle.
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Date: 2001-11-04 03:59 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2001-11-04 03:11 pm (UTC)You have planned that out just like I have always dreamed. I kid you not. From the home for the holidays to the charlie brown christmas special..only one thing is different. In my dream we don't serve cocktails..we serve cherry coke, root beer, and green river. heh
do tell MelRo that her statement about them seeing you was highly astute..perhaps she can come up with astuteness for dealing with my parents..? eh well a guy can dream..
Riley
P.S. I enjoyed hanging out with you and Melro the other night. It was nice as pie.
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Date: 2001-11-04 03:39 pm (UTC)good luck traveling back to chicago. let's hang out again this week.
ray
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Date: 2001-11-04 04:22 pm (UTC)I have a dream of going to a dinner party and bringing things for the hosts like bottles of wine or flowers or something. I might just do that. :)
I'm so excited to hang out and be all holiday-like and stuff.
Zoosh!
Cheerio.
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Date: 2001-11-05 08:12 am (UTC)Listening to David Sedaris' "Santaland Diaries" is fun too.