As an old-acting teenager, I was always hugely resentful of people who made assumptions or teased me about my age and any limits or stereotypes that came with it. I usually just shut my mouth and ignored them, and sometimes I would eventually gain their respect.
But in the past month I've had several conversations or occasions when I blamed a person's behavior on their age (generally being younger than me, though in one instance they were the same age). I've even caught myself saying (on several occasions) "Oh my, it's SOOoo obvious this person is only ____." When did this happen?
Though to my credit, I'm still acting way different then most folks, i.e. I don't assume from the get-go that a person will act a certain way, it's more that something will come out of their mouth that indicates to me their immaturity or inexperience, or more accurately, I had misjudged their experience and in reality they are exactly where they should be. But then again, who isn't exactly where they should be? If they weren't supposed to be there, they wouldn't. Again I digress.
Not that I'm a towering pillar of wisdom and experience and adulthood and self-actualization in the form of a near-25 year old queer. But maybe, like that cult Landmark teaches, I've learned to know what I don't-know. And in most cases, I seem to be encountering people who think they know and know-it-all. They don't know all the things they don't know.
Now I just need to actualize my actualizations and realize my realizations.
But in the past month I've had several conversations or occasions when I blamed a person's behavior on their age (generally being younger than me, though in one instance they were the same age). I've even caught myself saying (on several occasions) "Oh my, it's SOOoo obvious this person is only ____." When did this happen?
Though to my credit, I'm still acting way different then most folks, i.e. I don't assume from the get-go that a person will act a certain way, it's more that something will come out of their mouth that indicates to me their immaturity or inexperience, or more accurately, I had misjudged their experience and in reality they are exactly where they should be. But then again, who isn't exactly where they should be? If they weren't supposed to be there, they wouldn't. Again I digress.
Not that I'm a towering pillar of wisdom and experience and adulthood and self-actualization in the form of a near-25 year old queer. But maybe, like that cult Landmark teaches, I've learned to know what I don't-know. And in most cases, I seem to be encountering people who think they know and know-it-all. They don't know all the things they don't know.
Now I just need to actualize my actualizations and realize my realizations.
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Date: 2002-02-14 10:31 am (UTC)If you're roommate goes, ask them about all the weird sayings and words they use. They often can't define the words without using the word in the definition.