raybear | From the most lethal conglomerate on wax.....

I came out as queer officially in January or February (I can't really remember) of 1997. I didn't have a girlfriend at the time, and was actually rather pleased with myself that I was able to determine my sexual identity on my own and not basing it on a current partner. I went out a few times, kissed a few people, and for the most part started to actually date and whatnot. Many of these activities were irregular in structure, but whatever -- they worked and served a purpose and I enjoyed myself for the most part through the remainder of college. Most of the time I was probably quasi-single. Either in complicated partial relationships or dating someone casually (sometimes TOO casually but whatever). When I met Karen in December of 1998 I [thought I] was ready for the full-time full-fledged deal, so that's what we did. Hard and fast and quickly and intensely was the beginning of my first sort of textbook longterm relationship. It ended in August of 2000. I spent September relieved, just recovering and living alone and being with friends again. In October I flirted with a boy and in November we hooked up once or twice. In December I met Melanie.

All this means I haven't been completely 100% single and unhappy with the state of being alone in over 5 years.

I used to be the person who was always single. When did I become the person who's always dating someone?