Miscommunication on livejournal? Never!

[raybear]

Apparently yesterday afternoon's post really bothers some people. Strange because when I read these types of things on other people's journal, I pretty much assume they're not talking about me. So I wrote a whole entry in the style where I was talking about me. Me me me me me me. That's who this journal is about, after all.

But apparently I failed in the experiment because it's being seen as either passive-aggressive or gossipy or mean, so rather than try and fix it, I guess I'll just scrap it and make it private because it seems boring and frustrating to me now.

I hope you know that if I have beef with you, I'll settle it honestly.

Comments

[vfc.livejournal.com]

Just so you know, I didn't necessarily think that any of the things you were saying were about me. I didn't read any of the comments left by other people, so I don't know if or to what degree other people were offended. It's just that the trend with that type of entry is generally to be a passive-aggressive venting that makes a lot of people second guess themselves, whether or not the items were about you. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with addressing yourself in your own LJ, but if you aren't explicit in that, it's potentially hurtful to your friends. Sure, it makes for an interesting social experiment, I guess, but I can't say that I read my friends' LJs to become a guinea pig.

[raybear.livejournal.com]

right, right. like i said, i didn't do a clear job, because i wasn't trying to make anyone guinea pigs or drive them crazy with guessing, like i was holding some prize above their head and making them jump up and down. when people have done these lists in the past, i've always been fascinated with them in part because it's such this strange act of cowardice. which is also how i feel when i get extremely critical of people in my life -- i realize i'm really just feeling critical of myself but too cowardly to face it. but i didn't even see my words as being negative, because most of the items were about understanding and accepting even in the midst of problematic behavior.

i guess i should wait and tackle complicated social self-commentary when i'm not feeling overwhelmed and tired in my everyday life.