I'm not functional, I just play one on TV.

[raybear]

Now I know I'm not exactly the poster child for happy parental communication, but lately there have been several folks contemplating coming out letters to family, so in case any one is curious, I posted my coming out letters almost exactly a year ago here in my livejournal. So if you're looking for examples of what (not?) to do....or just for random support or fyi.....

Click here.

Comments

[nineinchlovely.livejournal.com]

Thanks dude..That really does help.
That, along with knowing that I'm not the first to go through this and I won't be the last, calms me out a lot. It's weird, because there are definitely times when I assume in my head you're a bioguy and you wouldn't know what I'm going through, even though the opposite is definitely true. Hrm. Funny that.
Thanks again,
Riley

whoa

[raybear.livejournal.com]

you said:

because there are definitely times when I assume in my head you're a bioguy

that's scary!! but I know what you mean.

I like it whenever MelRo makes some joke about weird characteristics "our kids would have if we had kids....oh wait." this later became an elaborately planned but never acted upon practical joke involving us going to a fertility clinic....we're freaks. yes, we know.

how's that gel packer doing???

[hissyfit.livejournal.com]

your strength really makes me smile. i'm glad i can call you my friend. thank you for being there for riley, and for just bein so darn hip.

by the way...

[raybear.livejournal.com]

I forgot to say yesterday -- thanks for your lovely ans sweet comment. I'm glad I know you too, and it makes me very happy for Riley!

[torreycanyon.livejournal.com]

That's a great letter, Ray.

I'm feeling almost sufficiently inspired to stop avoiding things and write my second follow-up letter. When it comes to facing forward and saying difficult things, it helps to hear other people taking their own deep breaths.

Congratulations on your year.

[raybear.livejournal.com]

you know, I've been trying to write my follow-up letter too. Avoidance is such a rich dish and I have such a sweet tooth. Perhaps my courage from the past can help motivate me in the present....

Oh, and congrats on the chin whiskers. I know you're currently doing the clean-shaven thing, but I too am very fond of my patch under my chin. Especially when I'm stroking it pensively...

[nineinchlovely.livejournal.com]

I THIIIINK you should make me have a goatee and a soulpatch. So.....make it happen.

*laugh*


Or..just patiently listen to me bitch about it. muahamuaha. okay. I promise I'ma simmah down nah.