Birthdays are like time bombs -- hope yours is a blast.

[raybear]

I don't normally like to start my birthday in tears, but my father sent me an e-card with the above image, and his message said this:

To: Ray

Have a wonderful birthday. Maybe we'll have birthday cake together one day.

Love Always,
- Dad

He fcking called me Ray. I can't believe he fcking called me Ray. Wow. That's almost as good a gift as the PS2. Almost. Well, I suppose it's not really fair to compare the two.

In other good news, I'm wearing my dope new cholo shirt that Poet Friend got me for my birthday. MFHA stopped to compliment how good it looked, so it must be pretty stand out. I was planning to wear it today and tonight but decided instead to change back into my Neil-like sweater vest and save my shirt for the party on Saturday. Here's sort of what the shirt looks like, except it's cream and black, instead of that rust color shown here:


I didn't bring a lunch today because I was hoping someone would take me out for a meal. Is that presumptuous? I have my own cash if that doesn't happen. Or maybe I'll just gorge myself on cake that my co-workers will give me. I'm sure that will be great for my blood sugar.

Is it bad that I have a crush on one of limenal's law school friend? Maybe I'm just still thinking about the pasta she made with bacon and butter and onions and tomato. She also served a greens salad with nuts and goat cheese with a vinagrette. Throw in a couple beers and I was a happy happy boy for dinner last night.

I'm making myself hungry.

Comments

[cloudsdescendin.livejournal.com]

Alright for your pops calling you Ray!

Happy Birthday!

[cuedus.livejournal.com]

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!

*hugs Kris, too*

Q

[cloudsdescendin.livejournal.com]

*lix Q*

hey sexy ;)

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[cuedus.livejournal.com]

My sweat can cause instantaneous orgasms.

(The Surgeon General made me start warning)

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[cloudsdescendin.livejournal.com]

*laughs*

I miss the smell of your underarms...but this is not the time or the place.

*hugs*

[cuedus.livejournal.com]

"Yes you belong to me! I'm yours exclusively." (couldn't resist)

[raybear.livejournal.com]

"Right now we live and breathe each other"

*grins*

thanks for the bday wishes!

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[cuedus.livejournal.com]

Yer welcome.

When I was a little boy, my aunt, Felecia, used to sing this song... it connotes all of the best things about being a kid for me.

... I think I'ma gonna download it...

Q

yay!!

[crafting-change.livejournal.com]

Happy birthday.
I hope someone does take you out for lunch.. you deserve it! BTW that is absolutely rad that your father called you Ray. I can't imagine how good it made you feel.

[brothernumber3.livejournal.com]

happy birthday brotherfriend
and congrats, it must feel so good after this long of waiting
for him to acknowledge you in that way

[raybear.livejournal.com]

to be honest it feels sort of strange. almost, but not quite, wrong. like i feel i should be rejoicing and elated, but i don't want to trust the moment because i feel there's still so much ground to cover.

but at least it's the first step and those are important.

p.s. thanks for the bday wishes.

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[brothernumber3.livejournal.com]

i think i know what you mean, a bit
i mean, my mom has just started calling me wyatt
granted, this didn't take nearly as long as i thought it would
but because we don't actually talk about anything
i don't know what she's really thinking about me, or about what i've told her so far...

but yes. take heart in the little things

[drood.livejournal.com]

I'd be in love with the law school friend too, after a meal like that. Yum.

Happy birthday! Did you get my text message? Did you get it? Huh? Huh?!

[supergoat.livejournal.com]

Happy birthday!

Finally, a long-lasting and meaninful present from your dad!

Have a great day!!!

[freakysparks.livejournal.com]

Happy birthday!!!

So...can I treat you to a delicious birthday luncheon?

[raybear.livejournal.com]

how kind of you to offer? whatever made you ask?

have you ever eaten at the Marquette Inn/Restaurant on Madison? it looks like it might be a place we'd enjoy....

[freakysparks.livejournal.com]

I have not eaten there yet, but want to. What time is good for you?

[raybear.livejournal.com]

how bout 12:30?

[freakysparks.livejournal.com]

12:30 is nifty. See you soon!

[griffen.livejournal.com]

It's so awesome when your parents accept you for who you are, isn't it? My dad elicited the same response from me several times this year -- once with my birthday card addressed to "Son," once when he introduced me to his boyfriend as "My son, Griffen," and once just this morning when I got an email from him saying "Hi son, how are you doing?"

Accepting parents should be high on the list of Things To Have. :)

[raybear.livejournal.com]

yeah, unfortunately i don't really have terribly accepting family members -- this is the first time in the year and a half since i came out to them as trans that he's addressed me as anything but my birthname. baby steps, I suppose.

but it gives me hope to see other people who's parents have managed to deal with the changes.

hip hop hippity hop

[milosh.livejournal.com]

happy birthday, neil-uh-nator! the big quarter century. man. i'm glad your dad called you ray, that is truly wonderful (though i also understand why it would feel so strange...).

can't wait to see you in the very, very near future. and in that sexxxy shirt, too! wooooooo weee ;)

hearts 'n' farts,
alvin blake

[clockwatcher.livejournal.com]

happy birthday!

[hissyfit.livejournal.com]

wow. your dad calling you ray almost made me cry.

happy birthday. :)

[torreycanyon.livejournal.com]

It got a gulpy sniff from me. Happy Birthday Ray.