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Thank you for all the supportive and congratulatory comments about my Out magazine piece! Unfortunately, it still isn't on the stands at a lot of places. I haven't even seen it officially in print yet -- I went to a couple places in downtown Chicago and they didn't have the new issue.

I have this other thing I want to write about, but that will come later. In the meantime, let's cheat and do a meme!

Everyone has things they blog about. Everyone has things they don't blog about. Challenge me out of my comfort zone by telling me something I don't blog about, but you'd like to hear about, and I'll write a post about it. Maybe. I will at least address it in a sentence or two!
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Ok, I'll do the class meme. But on my own know-it-all terms. I'm adding a bunch of things that I think should also be on the list. [There's a ** before them, in case you're curious. If you have others you thought of, please share!]

Father went to college
Father finished college
Mother went to college

Mother finished college [dropped out, couldn't afford classes, and you didn't need a college degree to enter the secretarial pool. which is still middle class.]
Have any relative who is an attorney, physician, or professor [there are LOTS of engineers though, which is pretty middle class]
Were the same or higher class than your high school teachers
Had more than 50 books in your childhood home
Had more than 500 books in your childhood home
Were read children's books by a parent
Had lessons of any kind before you turned 18

Had more than two kinds of lessons before you turned 18
The people in the media who dress and talk like me are portrayed positively [i'm assuming they mean how I dressed and talked as a kid. but even now, white men aren't doing so bad for themselves in media. also, when I was a kid "In the Heat of the Night" was popular and those were my people!]
Had a credit card with your name on it before you turned 18
Your parents (or a trust) paid for the majority of your college costs [I did have to work during, but still it was a fraction.]
Your parents (or a trust) paid for all of your college costs
Went to a private high school
Went to summer camp
Had a private tutor before you turned 18
Family vacations involved staying at hotels [motels, mostly, and only once every two years for special trips (most 'vacations' were visiting family). but still.]
Your clothing was all bought new before you turned 18 (not all of it, but much of it)
Your parents bought you a car that was not a hand-me-down from them
**You HAD a car before the age of 18 that was yours alone
**Household owned two or more cars

There was original art in your house when you were a child
Had a phone in your room before you turned 18
You and your family lived in a single family house
Your parent(s) owned their own house or apartment before you left home
You had your own room as a child

Participated in an SAT/ACT prep course
Had your own TV in your room in High School
Owned a mutual fund or IRA in High School or College
Flew anywhere on a commercial airline before you turned 16 [The summer I turned 16 I took my first flight...a trip to Europe! Hello, privilege.]
Went on a cruise with your family
Went on more than one cruise with your family
Your parents took you to museums and art galleries as you grew up
You were unaware of how much heating bills were for your family
**You went to the dentist on a regular basis
**Had braces
**Had regular healthcare or a family doctor
**Your household had cable television
**Had VCR
**Had a home computer
**Had a video game system
**Had a parent explain to you how to do your taxes


And I created a part two -- what sort of privilege do I have NOW? If you answered the first meme in your journal, I'd be curious to know your results of this one too. (You can do it in the comment section here, if you prefer.)

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....what else on this list? I know I'm missing things.

I barely make lower middle-class income bracket. But 'barely' is still doing it. [Note: I'm using the standard of $25,000-$50,000.] And after my massive consumer debt payments and grad school loan payments, I don't have lots of cash left. In fact, I'm bouncing checks and/or shuffling money back and forth to prevent it. But the fact is, I CAN bounce checks. And I'm eating well and living well and most of my bills are paid in a somewhat reasonable manner. And the irony is I would be living even better if I didn't have so much credit card debt that was driven by my need to maintain a middle/upper-class existence right out of college. I also have a graduate degree and at any moment could walk into HR and ask for a full time position with benefits and probably make $50,000 a year with paid vacation and sick days, plus I'd have a 401K and could bold the statement above. So even though I don't HAVE some of the things on my list, if I really really really wanted them, I probably could within a year or so. I choose not to, for my sanity, for my writing endeavors. But that doesn't mean I can ignore the privilege that goes with it either. And I don't for the most part. I mean, I freak out about money (who doesn't?) and I stress about it and its a real problem, but you know. Microcosm/macrocosm.

I also interests me how the experience of the first list has informed who people are as adults and our various relationships to money. I know that most people would probably bold the majority of the second list. I mean, this meme is happening on a blogging site, so people obviously have leisure time and access to computers, which implies many of the other things here too.
raybear: (sunglasses)
I don't do memes very often, but this one from [livejournal.com profile] vfc melted my icey heart.

1. Go to the Wikipedia home page and click random article. That is your band's name.
2. Click random article again; that is your album name.
3. Click random article 15 more times; those are the tracks on your album.


Band:Dorsal Metatarsal Artery [or, DMA, for those in the know]
Album: 1972 New York Mets season

Track Listing

1. G-LOC: Air Battle
2. Hold Your Fire [woo-hoo! a tribute to Rush song!!]
3. Walter Kaufmann
4. The Damned Don't Cry!
5. Merrill De Maris
6. Argolic Gulf
7. Caesar cut
8. Back and Forth
9. Dent Island
10. REM dreamer
11. Run Like Hell [and now a Pink Floyd cover. obviously my band will be prog rock.]
12. Gary Player Country Club
13. Okemo Mountain
14. Secrets of the Alchemist Dar/Unsolved Puzzles
15. Widemouth gambusia

Bonus track: Ringxiety
___________

Ok, this make me want to go practice guitar now. And get started on writing a song called "The Damned Don't Cry!"
raybear: (scream)

1. You are a saint. What are you holding in your hands in your icon? How did you die? Write me about your life as a saint.

I will be canonised centuries from now, when my remains are unexpectedly discovered during the planting season and buried with me are dozens of volumes of my writing which were hermetically sealed to survive the elements. During this era of peak oil survival, liberation theology will have taken over the main branches of the catholic church and they will include in their lists of saints people who weren't catholic at all, but because of my three miracles (1. that I got published; 2. that I convinced eight people to stop buying bottled water in bulk; 3. that I owned more used books than the average bookstore), my saintship will be recognized. Also, I invented the word saintship. After I insisted on sticking my fingers into the bullet holes of George Bush's corpse because I didn't believe him to be dead, I contracted a necrotic infection that eventually took my own life. I am featured in stained glass windows holding a bucket of water and a pen and notebook.

2. It's sell out time my friend. You have been hired to write a series of books for a specific audience, the money is good, you have a fake name so your reputation won't be damaged. And so tell me who are the books target audience and what are they about?

What reputation?? Well, ok, I do like pen names. I would get hired by Black Lace to expand into trans-fetish markets, but I will also write lots of hetero erotica too. My titles will be the best-selling in the catalog for a few years until its leaked that I am not a woman and the scandal will drive booksales up even higher. However, ethically, I will be forced to end my contract with them, only to be immediately picked up by larger publishing house who will start a new imprint of 'mainstream' erotica. I will probably either cease enjoying sex because of this lucrative endeavor, or I will only have it in a swing while blindfolded and being beaten with chains by someone in fishnet stocking, because its the only thing that gets me off anymore.

3. You have an extra serving of soul on your plate baby. Where did it come from?

I grew up mostly in Atlanta! My family for several generations back is Deep South. Not that those things automatically mean anything, but as I get older, I am strangely drawn to how the South and being Southern has shaped me. But probably more importantly, I am a sponge, I soak up things around me, whether its accents or music or heart or ways of seeing the world. I probably cannibalize and steal, but then again, who doesn't? Mostly I just listen and watch and learn and accidentally mimic and then seamlessly incorporate. Sometimes not-so-seamlessly, too. Also, I'm a Cancer. We are sensitive poets. And we like the blues. Or at least I do.

4. Do you believe in utopias? Is there any book you have read, any belief system that speaks to you most deeply about how the world could be? I guess I am asking what gives you hope?

I grew up Methodist so for a long time utopia was heaven, but it always seemed really vague to me. I wasn't so much into streets of gold and I wondered what we would do all day. I've read More's Utopia and I've always been intrigued by communes, except those stories always end badly, they are so close to cults, and I never felt powerful enough to come up with one on my own that I felt confident would be resistant of plague that has caused so many to fall. But recently, this is starting to change for me. Perhaps this is my version of getting older. I turned 30, I realized, I don't have a concrete life vision of what I want, how I want my world to be. I have lots of small ideas and large concepts all commingling in my brain at any given time, but nothing to work on, work towards. Except now I am starting to shape ideas, and its connected to a house and a small town/community and learning to grow my own food. I am buying the books now to start learning, and the plan is that in 5 years or so, (maybe when my second novel gets sold, I will use the advance as a down payment) on said house with a small plot of land and we will live there and here in the city (a smaller apartment here) and I will farm for two hours a day and produce 50% of what we eat. And I will still write and I will be in the city too, teaching writing, and I will find ways to engage the community of artists and queers around me so we can sustain ourselves as extended family here in the midwest, stereotypically California-thinking that doesn't need to be solely California-ways.

5. Your mix cds are legend. One of my favorite entries of yours was about Joni Mitchell's Blue, that was beautiful. I want 10 or more songs, a cd that sums it up, the ultimate raybear mix!

Ok, I'm making this mix RIGHT NOW as I type and tomorrow I might regret, but I'm going with the moment! I call this mix:

If You Know and Love All 10 of These Songs, We Can Be Friends (don't worry, we can be friends for other reasons, I'm just saying, here's a shortcut.)

1. Walk On By -- Dionne Warwick
2. Ironman -- Ghostface Killah
3. Quiet Storm (remix) -- Mobb Deep w/ Lil Kim
4. Sara -- Fleetwood Mac
5. There Will Never Be Another You -- Chet Baker
6. One of These Things First -- Nick Drake
7. SpottieOttieDopalicious -- OutKast
8. Inspiration Information -- Shuggie Otis
9. Here I Dreamt I Was An Architect -- The Decemberists
10. Far Away -- Martha Wainwright
Bonus Track: SUBG -- Kelly Clarkson.

Meme!

Apr. 11th, 2007 05:04 pm
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I had a little too much fun answering Liza's, so I should put this in my own journal too. It's also an appropriate meme, given that lately I've been paying more attention to the strange keyword phrases that IMDB uses for movies.

-Go to IMDb.com and look up 10 TV shows you like(d).
-Post three official IMDb "Plot Keywords" for these 10 picks.
-Have your friends guess the show names (no cheating!)

1. Deceased Father, Flashback Sequence, Phone Sex

2. End Of The World Scenario, Creator Creation Relationship, Robot As Menace

3. Post It, Crushed To Death, Black Comedy

4. Neo Noir, Demon, Conflicted Hero

5. Critically Acclaimed, Gay Slur, Racial Slur

6. Mystery Woman, New York City, Character Name In Title [

7. Hero Gone Bad, Boxer Rebellion, Chosen One

8. Horror, Non Fiction, Character Name In Title

9. Science, Murder, Bullet

10. Robot As Pathos, Famous Opening Theme, Tea


Here are the answers and who got them right first:

1. Sisters [[livejournal.com profile] vfc]
2. Battlestar Galactica [[livejournal.com profile] unscrambled]
3. Dead Like Me [[livejournal.com profile] vfc]
4. Angel [[livejournal.com profile] anjibobanji]
5. The Wire [[livejournal.com profile] fish]
6. Ugly Betty [[livejournal.com profile] vfc]
7. Buffy [[livejournal.com profile] anjibobanji]
8. Oprah [[livejournal.com profile] vfc]
9. CSI [[livejournal.com profile] unscrambled]
10. Star Trek the Next Generation [[livejournal.com profile] vfc]

I think my favorite phrases are "Robot as Menace" and "Robot as Pathos".

raybear: (turntable)
Actually, no, if [livejournal.com profile] sharkysmachine asked me to, I just might change my mind and do a meme.

one of those pick-a-song-that-corresponds-with-something-vaguely-biographical memes )

your turn.
raybear: (scream)
Kelly Clarkson's "What's Up Lonely" is the perfect example of syrupy faux r&b that makes my heart warm this morning. Hey, it can't be any worse than the Milli Vanilli song that randomly popped in my head while making coffee. I have no obvious or simple explanation for that.

This morning I also drank what I sort of dub my 'citrus power drink', which is basically me juicing all the random fruits in the house that are nearing overripeness. Today was 2 oranges, 1 tangerine, 1 grapefruit, 1 lime and half a shot of maple syrup. I contemplated juicing one of the aforementioned pears, but wasn't sure it would work, given I don't have an official "juicer", like, that plugs in for doing things like carrots, just one for doing it by hand.

I couldn't resist posting the results of this generated meme. And generally I find those things very easy to resist. But not this one!!

On the twelfth day of Christmas, raybear sent to me...
Twelve records dime-dropping
Eleven walgreens fucking
Ten cities a-sampling
Nine bears dancing
Eight olives a-cooking
Seven renfairehippienudists a-writing
Six lapdances a-cuddling
Five ro-o-o-oad trips
Four white allies
Three los angeles
Two spontaneous visits
...and a bdsm in an irony.
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